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  1. I wonder whether there is any possibility of arranging for Paul Elliot Russell to speak at the festival. He is a professor at Vassar College and the author of several novels that I have recently read: “Immaculate Blue”, “Boys of Life” and “Salt Point” (which is on my reading list), among others. I am currently reading “The Unreal Life of Sergey Nabakov”. I finf his work to be extremely compelling.


  2. Odd that the senior members in the picture were not identified. I know three of the older men and know they are not closeted. The man on the right is also a friend of the group.

  3. I am a trans women who works in Baltimore city and I would love to get your help on how and what things I need to do to start my own trans group ?

    • Hi Rhonda,
      Thank you for your comment and for reaching out to us. Have you contacted GAY & LESBIAN COMMUNITY CENTER OF BALTIMORE (GLCCB) in Baltimore? They are closer than the DC Center and might be able to better assist your effort.

    • Hey Lloyd,

      It really depends on their situation, and there are a lot of variables to take into consideration. What state do they currently reside in and do they have a valid drivers license? Are they a Veteran, or on disability? Can they afford to rent a room and if so what is their budget? Do they qualify for Emergency Rental Assistance? So …… the best thing to do is to call the DC Center and have them talk to one our two amazing social workers and we can go from there!

  4. can you produce the newsletters, etc
    so the reader can toggle back and forth between the complete english version and the complete spanish version so that we can use it as a learning tool for the language that i am not completely familiar with….?

    • Hi tj,
      Unfortunately, at this time we do not have the staff capacity to translate our newsletter into Spanish.
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community!

  5. It’s really nice to see Sam get recognized! I am lucky to work with Sam regularly through the DC Center’s Youth Working Group ( – Eddy Ameen, YWG chair

  6. Good afternoon , my name is Maria from RAICES, a non-profit agency providing legal services to underserved immigrants.

    One of our services is working with asylum-seeking mothers and children released from family detention centers. Some of these families are in need of shelter placement and we would like to know more about your organization and service population.”

    Our service population: Mothers and children (<18 yrs), Majority Central American (Honduras, El Salvador, Guatemala), Most Spanish-speakers, some indigenous languages

    Thank you

    • Hi Maria,
      The DC Center operates a program called Center Global. Since 2012, Center Global has served 200 LGBT individuals from Africa, Southeast Asia, Latin America and the Caribbean, the Middle East, and the former Soviet Union countries and Russia seeking asylum in the United States. A program of the DC Center for the LGBT Community, Center Global provides a welcoming environment to LGBT asylum seekers, and works to address individual legal and social needs. Where possible, Center Global can provide short-term financial assistance, legal referrals, general and mental health services referrals, and other social support referrals during the asylum process.
      Thank you for your inquiry!

  7. Ni hao Ping,
    Thank you for writing about inclusivity. Studies confirm anecdotal experience that gay men under thirty do not even care about let alone respect gay men over sixty. I have even been told by young gay men that I am not welcome in gay bars which is ironic given that I am a Stonewall veteran. The fact that the Center has a group for senior does not change this.

    “Yet Another Problem for Older Gay Men: “Internalized Gay Ageism” by J. Bryan Lowder
    Fortunately, the researchers identified one factor that shows promise in at least partially softening the “social stress” of IGA: mattering. “Mattering,” according to the paper, “refers to the degree to which people feel they are an important part of the world around them.” It goes on: “People with a high sense of mattering feel that others think about them, seek their advice, or care about what happens to them.” A sense of mattering could come from a variety of sources, but one that immediately comes to mind is for young gay men to make a point of spending time and developing friendships with older gay men. There’s something of a taboo on this within the community—partially due to the (sometimes true) idea that older gay men are only after sex and partially because younger gay men can be incurious, historically ignorant babies—but it’s one we have to overcome. I have long encouraged cross-generational conversation as a way of transmitting and preserving our history—but now we know it’s also essential to the health of the guys who made it possible for us to be out in the first place.

    To their credit, the paper authors recognize the injustice inherent in having our heroes think they don’t matter because they are no longer idealized young studs: “These men have traversed unparalleled, personally relevant historical changes across their adult lives and have paved the way for younger generations of sexual minorities to live in a time of less institutionalized discrimination,” they write in the conclusion. “Still, they are subject to feeling socially invisible and depreciated in their later years, especially within the gay male community.” This is shameful—the very place they should feel at home and cared for should not be a source of stress. We can and must do better.

    May I recommend the following:


    Passions of the Cut Sleeve: The Male Homosexual Tradition in China by Brett Hirsch (1992)
    Gay and Lesbian Asia: Culture, Identity, Community by Gerard Sullivan and Peter A. Jackson

    Taiwanese Culture, Taiwanese Society by Stephen O. Murray and Keelung Hong (2008) (authors are gay)


    Orientations by Peter Fung (1986)

    Re: Orientations (2016)


    Asian/Pacific Islander Queers United for Action (AQUA)

    Member of Executive Committee and Washington Liaison for Stonewall Veterans Association

    • Hi Robert,
      Thank you for your comment and for the useful references! I am in fact a member of AQUA.
      I’m sorry about what you experienced. We definitely want to work on improving building better connections and establishing relationships among community members. I hope you would be interested in some of our events and together we can address this issue.

  8. This is great for people like me who are afraid to come out to my family I want to tell my partner and soon to be husband Antrone Woody that I love him forever.

    • As the sister of a Gay, Black, HIV+ male, where do we go so that he can meet others for friendship & possible relationships in Baltimore/Annapolis areas?
      Just asking because he’s a great man and deserves a great partner.

  9. Am a 33 year HiV+ survivor. Am very active with WWC, Hope Am presently working with the DOH Ryan White Counciling Board. Planning to have a monthly discussion group for Long Term Survivors. Will update when i know more specific. Thank you

  10. Hi, The DC Center!

    Hope all is well. I just wanted to ask if I need to register for WiTT or I can just walk in on that day to join the group?

    Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.

  11. Hello DC Center,
    I look forward to attending this meeting on September 27.
    I serve as the senior director of the research department at Whitman-Walker Health and very interested in discussing this report on LGBT Health in DC.
    I am fairly recent transplanted from LA where I worked as a researcher st UCLA and with the LA GLBT Center.

  12. I would love to get involved speaking to the LGBT community. As a gay out woman, I want to help others discover their voice, talents, and purpose.

    My work can be viewed at


  13. Thanks for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community. We aren’t directly affiliated with this organization. I would contact them to see what accessibility they provide. Here is a link to their website:
    Thanks again!

  14. Are there still tickets for the DC Queer Theater festival on Saturday..I would want 2 tickets if you aren’t sold out. Thanks

  15. Hi,
    My name is Alvin Bethea. I am the proud father of JaParker Deoni Jones, the Transgender who was killed at the bus stop while waiting for her bus. It would be my honor to serve on the DC Center Board of Directors.

  16. was searching for additional info about aging
    for example, where are the luncheons held?
    how many persons usually attend?
    topics covered, ?

    • Hi TJ,
      You can join the Center Aging Facebook group at The luncheon is held here at the DC Center (2000 14th St NW Suite 105, Washington, DC 20009), but the attendance varies.
      Thanks for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community!

  17. I would like to join your group. I moved to Washington DC from Florida August 2017 so I’m new to the area don’t know anyone. Please add me to your list lol

    • Hi Ann,
      Thanks for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community. I will add your e-mail address to the newsletter list.

  18. Hi Ladies!

    I’m an independent filmmaker currently working on a documentary about human sexuality. We have conducted shoots in Chicago, Los Angeles and are now prepping for our DC area shoot which will take place during the first week of December. Would you allow me to come by one of your meetings to give your group more information and inquire if any of the women would be interested in participating?


    • Hi!
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community. Please feel free to e-mail me any promotional materials or information you have to and I will contact the group coordinator for you.
      Thank you!

    • Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! The Gay District Thanksgiving Potluck will be 11/17/17 from 8:30-9:30pm.

  19. My name is Jasmine Ford and I am a nurse and HIV Medical Case Manager in the Northern Virginia area who also identify as a trans woman of color. I am a health educator/ public speaker and poet. If there is anyway I can assist you in your new position as Trans Health Coordinator, please do not hesitate to contact me or my organization. CONGRATS!!
    Fredericksburg HIV/AIDS Support Services (FAHASS)
    540-907-4555 EXT. 112

    • Hi Leigh,
      Thank you for your message. We are unable to edit the responses, but we will keep a note on that. In the meantime, could you go to the survey and see if you can edit your response?
      If you have any questions, please also feel free to email me at Because your comment contains personal information (your email address), I will remove it after you have seen it. Let me know when you get the reply. Thanks -Ping

  20. I would like to have a appointment to meet up with Dr. Z. Clarke about a problem I am having with neighbors. I am a black male and I have a disability, in which they make fun of. My name is Mr. Gibbs. Give me a call at 301-808-4690 or email me, let me know when I can see you. Thank you

  21. I’ve gone to some “straight” polyamory groups and found no common connection to the dynamic I could imagine and have tried to navigate in a gay men’s poly-amorous relationship. I thought this group might be that. As I looked at attendance to some of the past events, I see this group might not be…or at least hasn’t yet tapped gay men considering or experiencing polyamory. Perhaps I can do something to help get that segment involved or even as a side group to begin. Let’s chat

    • HI Marc,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community. The next poly discussion group is tomorrow. Feel free to come and share your thoughts!

    • Hi Dana,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! We host a discussion group meetup every second Saturday of the month at 1pm. The next one is this Saturday (1.13.18), please have your client come and share their thoughts!
      Thank you!

    • Hi Amy,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! Feel free to show up a little late. We do not turn away late comers.

  22. I agree strongly with the need to for Congress to pass comprehensive immigration reform, to include providing a path to citizenship for Dreamers plus enhanced protections and services for LGBTQ persons fleeing violence and/or discrimination in their home countries.

    This letter to Congress would have been stronger had it not included any mention of partisan politics, e.g., framing the President’s ending of DACA as an attack on immigrants. In fact, both of our major political parties have failed to enact immigration reform for two decades. The President’s termination of DACA puts this issue back into the hands of Congress where it belongs. The American people support providing Dreamers a path to citizenship and the need for comprehensive immigration reform. It is now our responsibility to ensure our Congressional representatives hear our voices and act accordingly. We vote, and we are watching.

  23. I would most definitly be interested in volunterring for one day out of the week,,,for front desk duties,,,please respond to what day is in accordance to others whom may have applied to volunteer.

    Ms Dee Curry .

  24. Good morning Ms. Miller,

    My name is Samantha Harper and I am apart of this great film “Shane’s Story”. This film is about a teenager who is at his wits end about his sexuality of being gay. He has thought about suicide until he meets someone who can bring some sort of balance into his life and he can open up about who is as a young man in a society (small town) that is not so willing to accept him or anyone else like him. I would like for you to take a look at the trailer as well as my FB page for my views as well as other cast members. Thank you for your time, patience and consideration.

    • Hi Samantha,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community and sharing your trailer!
      Chris Rothermel
      Operations Manager

    • Hi Anna,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community. If you would like to set up an interview with a specific group, please send me an email, and I will pass it along to the corresponding group’s coordinators.
      Have a great weekend!
      Chris Rothermel

  25. I visited the DC center Friday, January 19 for a trans/gender queer game night. I showed my ID to the “female-presenting” guard. She returned my ID and said “Thank you, Ms Hill.” She’s referred to me in this manner other times I’ve visited the DC center and I’ve let it slide, but this particular evening I asked her “Why she continues to call me a “Ms” when clearly that’s not the gender I’m expressing!” She argued with me that “female” is what is on my ID and everyone is different and a bunch of other nonsense that I chose to ignore. I advised her to never refer to me as a a “Ms” again and I walked off. She continued mumbling and grumbling even after I had walked away. I didn’t realize I could report her behavior until now. She’s a nasty woman. I’ve always had issues with her. I haven’t been to the DC center since, but I plan on attending the trans support group this upcoming Friday and/or Tuesday. We’ll see what happens. Thank you.

    • Hi Jhey,
      I’m so sorry that this happened to you! My name is Chris Rothermel. If this happens again, please get the officer’s name and let me know. My e-mail address is I hope this doesn’t keep you from coming to the meetings.
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community!

  26. My partner and I would love to be involved! Can we drop in tomorrow at 7pm to help? I didn’t see a sign up – apologies if I’ve overlooked it.

    • Hi James,
      Thank you for your thoughts! Hopefully you can make it to the next Coffee and Conversation and discuss these with the group.

    • Hi Donald,
      Have you reached out to the DC Housing Authority? Although there is a waiting list for housing in the District of Columbia, preference is given to persons with mobility impairments, particularly those who serve as the head of a household. When there is a handicapped-accessible unit available, DCHA will go down its waiting list to look for applicants who have indicated they have mobility impairments.
      I hope this is helpful!

  27. I see that this post is a couple weeks old, have all volunteer posts been filled or is the Center still looking for people to help out? I would love to offer any time I can if there is still a need for it.

    Marin Kirk

    • Thank you for your interest in volunteering at the front desk! All of the spots have been filled, but I will save your information and reach out to you when the next slot is open.
      Chris Rothermel

    • Hi Xufan,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! Please feel free to just show up at the event. We are located at 2000 14th St NW Suite 105.
      See you soon.

  28. Hello, I’m moving to the DC metro area in about a month and am looking to get involved and meet some new people in the area. Found this page online and figured I’d reach out!

    • Hi Kate,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! Feel free to attend a meeting when you arrive in DC. WITT meets every 2nd and 4th Friday at 8pm. See you soon!

  29. Hi my name is Duduzile from Zimbabwe l would like to take part in this program as a volunteer please can you kindly assist on how l can be part of it

    Kind Regards

    • Hi Duduzile,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! I will send an e-mail to the coordinators, and they will contact you directly. Thanks again!

  30. I just came across this group nd despite being in DC all these years, I wasn’t aware and I would like opportunity to connect and make friends.

    • Hi Anita,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! Feel free to attend the next WITT meeting. WITT meets every 2nd and 4th Friday at 8pm. See you soon!

    • Hi Jessica,
      Thank you for reaching out to the DC Center for the LGBT Community! I will contact the coordinators, and they will contact you directly. We hope to see you tomorrow!

    • Thank you for your interest in volunteering at the DC Center for the LGBT Community! I will send you an e-mail shortly.